I hope that if someone you don’t like, respect, or trust tells you a lie about yourself, you reject the lie and keep believing in your dreams. But what do you do when the person telling the lie about you, is you? Silencing your inner critic is as important as silencing an external critic.

Bringing a dream to life requires clarity, purpose and persistence. There are so many people, places and things that can and will discourage you if you let them. But I believe that the greater danger or risk to you birthing your dream is the enemy within. When something does not go as planned how do you respond?

Do you look at the situation, determine what you can learn and keep pushing toward the original goal? Or do you give up and decide it was not worth the trouble? How long does it take you to ‘get over’ it?

If silencing your inner critic is just a pipe dream, there are things you can do. If you spoke to your friends the way you talk to yourself in time of doubt or discouragement would you have any friends?

There is a certain comic (who will remain nameless, because I don’t want you to know I’m one of his fans!) who often talks about the need for all of us to be our own biggest fan, our own ‘star player’. (Gave it away, didn’t  I?) I believe him.

I don’t know who said it, but in Mary Kay circles I always heard, ‘If you believe you can, you can. If you believe you can’t, you’re right.” Denis Waitley says, “If you believe you can, you probably can. If you believe you won’t, you most assuredly won’t.”

Your belief in yourself, in your abilities, in your possibilities, in your destiny, is critical to silencing your inner critic and staying as inspired as you must in order to see your goals come to pass.

Your belief in yourself, in your abilities, in your possibilities, in your destiny, is critical to staying as inspired as you must in order to see your goals come to pass.

Motivation is simple, listen to a great song, attend a high-energy meeting, read a feel-good article, hear  a story about someone else overcoming obstacles and you get motivated. Problem is, motivation is temporary.

Why do I say that? Because you have to keep getting motivated over and over again. Inspiration, on the other hand, lasts a lifetime. In tomorrow’s post I am going to look at several ways that you can get inspired to see your dreams come true.

For today, can we agree that you will work on becoming as good a friend to yourself and your dreams as you are to others? Silencing your inner critic is the first step toward being a better friend to yourself.

Allegra Sinclair is a professional coach and confidence expert. She hates to see women living small and loves to help them change how they show up in the world.

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