As you release your old story and write a new one, you may not be sure what to do next. A big component of changing old habits is to ​replace​ the previous behaviors with new habits. You don’t want to leave a void in your life.

Where Do You Start?

Now that you know who you don’t want to be or what you don’t want to do, it’s a great time to create your new reality. Having said that, it can be hard to figure out what you want to do now. If that is you, you can start with these questions…

What New Hobbies Excite You?

You might want to try a number of new things now that you’re in a different place in your life. Give yourself permission to make this the ideal time to learn to paint or take that Italian cooking class you’ve always been interested in.

There’s no right or wrong hobby to pursue as long as you keep your focus forward. If you find one that interests you, go for it and try it out for a few weeks. You may discover your next favorite thing or you may learn more about what you don’t want to do again. All data is good here, while you’re exploring.

Who Do You Want to Meet?

As you try new things, you’ll probably meet new people. This can be exciting because you never know what will unfold in these new relationships. Perhaps you’ll meet your future best friend or get introduced to your future spouse.

Stay open to the people around you. Another member of your networking group might invite you out for coffee and a chat. A participant in your yoga class might ask you to meet up so you can exchange a few dessert recipes. Don’t be afraid to make a connection…you never know where it might lead.

What Beliefs Are You Ready to Release?

Sometimes, letting go of an old story can help you abandon old beliefs. For example if you have a very conservative family, you may feel like you’re finally free to get that tattoo you’ve always wanted. If so, get some ink! If you have abandoned a fear of traveling alone, you can take that cruise you’ve dreamed of and freely mingle with the other vacationers.

Think of an adventure you’ve wanted to have and look for ways to make it happen. Don’t be surprised if doors start opening when you do this. When you keep your focus forward you can see opportunities unfold the moment you ask for them.

Who Do You Want in Your Circle?

Having a support system to bounce things off of can be very powerful at this stage. Spend time with people that don’t know all of your old stories. Write new chapters with the people who are present in your life and accept you for who you are today.

Get excited about your future possibilities! If you’ve never considered working with a life coach, this could be a great time to connect with someone that can encourage and support you. Coaches excel at helping you keep your focus forward.

​Now You’re Ready to keep your Focus Forward

Remember to give yourself grace as you start writing new stories. You may not believe them right away, but there will come a day when you’ll say, “I totally forgot my old story. I can’t remember the last time I thought that way.” In that moment, you’ll realize that story has no power over you anymore.

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About Allegra Sinclair


Allegra Sinclair is a professional coach and confidence expert. She hates to see women living small and loves to help them change how they show up in the world.