Many people want to overcome shyness. When we were young, being shy might have been considered sweet or cute. For some people, continuing to deal with shyness as an adult has morphed into feeling awkward in social situations. And that’s not cute. If your shyness is preventing you from enjoying life, you can discover and cultivate inner confidence. With a little patience and practice, you can finally conquer shyness and feel more confident in every situation.
By following the steps below, you can overcome your shyness in a gradual, healthy way:
Start by attending social situations that don't create a lot of anxiety and require much effort from you. Events like poetry readings, book signings, or concerts work well. Once you're comfortable being in a crowded environment, you can move to more intimate settings that will require more direct input. If it's been a while since you've interacted with more than two people at once, it may feel overwhelming to go to a party where there will be dozens of guests.
Practice often so that new behaviors become second nature. When you're home alone, stand in front of a mirror and pretend that you're engaging in small talk at a cocktail party. (Side benefit, you may remember the silly feeling when you are at the actual party and feel more relaxed.) Do this frequently, and you'll find that conversation comes much more easily.
focus on Others
If you feel uncomfortable approaching a stranger, that's understandable. Many people feel shy doing this. If someone starts a conversation with you, focus the conversation on him or her. Ask questions about their life, and keep them talking until you find common ground.
Tap into Your Self Confidence
When you feel good about yourself, being around others is more fun. When you're feeling secure, you actually enjoy sharing your opinion because you know that you have something valuable to contribute to the conversation.
Occasionally, you may feel a little social anxiety or trepidation. And you may feel this more often if you’re attending an event where you don’t know that many people or if it’s a business function and you didn’t choose to spend time with those particular people. But you do have the power to overcome your shyness. And you deserve to discover your inner confidence and experience life without reservation.
Have you ever struggled with shyness? How did you overcome it? Help others by sharing your tips in the comment box below.