I am comfortable saying no to others without guilt.

My life is my own to live as I please. And my choices are mine to make. Therefore, friends and family members are unable to pressure me into decisions they want me to make.

I try to be nice to everyone and respectful to all people. However, I stand my ground when people become overly needy or start making unreasonable demands of me.

Like everything else in my life, my time is my own. If I am not in the mood to spend lots of time with family members or friends who I don’t enjoy being around, I don’t have to. My only true obligation is to myself; everyone else gets the periods of the time that I make available. They each get only the time I am willing to dedicate to them.

Personally, I make it a point to always respect the boundaries of others. I refrain from pushing, prying, or overextending my welcome. I would feel like a burden if I were to push myself onto others in a way that would make me uncomfortable. It is only fair that my friends and family respect my need to control my time and make my own decisions.

I have the power to say no to others without feeling guilt. This is because I know that it is ok to say no to someone to take care of myself without negative repercussions.

Today, I honor the commitments I make. And I make only the commitments that I can participate in with the right motivation. I say no to others with guilt. I refuse to go along with something when I’d rather not take part.

Questions for Self-Reflection:

  1. Do I often feel such pressure from others that I do what they want simply to get them off my back?
  2. When saying no to others, do I feel guilty, as if I should have done more?
  3. Do I make unrealistic requests of others?

 

About Allegra Sinclair


Allegra Sinclair is a professional coach and confidence expert. She hates to see women living small and loves to help them change how they show up in the world.