Low self esteem often results from the barrage of negative messages that our minds are exposed to daily. This becomes even more important when we stop to think that many of these messages are being absorbed subconsciously and having an effect on our conscious lives. There are several things we can do to improve your self esteem including limiting our news consumption and increasing our exposure to positive thoughts and messages.

I’m not going to concentrate on how to limit your news consumption because there is so much information available about that. (But I will remind you that we can choose which news to watch and when to watch it). But I do want to dwell on how powerful affirmations can be for retraining our minds and making long-term behavioral changes.

I had a brilliant mentor in a network marketing company who really encouraged me to use positive affirmations to help me get out of my own way and reach my business goals. The challenge was I didn’t really believe they could work and I didn’t really know how to use them.  In case that is holding you back also, here are some ideas on how you can create and use affirmations to improve your self-esteem.

  1. Write in the present tense.  Affirmations are most powerful when written in the present not future tense. When you write, “I will exercise daily” the timeframe for that to happen is so vague it could be now or 3 years from now.  But when you write, “I enjoy exercising daily” it is obvious that this is something you am doing right now. The urgency will improve your self esteem.
  2. Repeat regularly.  You need to hear your affirmations more than once for them to have the desired effect on your self-esteem. Try memorizing them and repeating them to yourself several times a day. Many women find recording their affirmations and listening to the audio several times a day works well also.  Your subconscious mind is constantly playing back old, negative messages – so it’s important to counteract those as much as possible.
  3. Speak enthusiastically.  When you repeat your affirmations, you can do so by reading them to yourself several times a day, reading them out loud, or recording them and listening to the audio. Be careful that you don’t sabotage your efforts by letting a disbelieving or sarcastic tone enter your voice. How would you encourage a dear friend? Use that level of enthusiasm and belief when you are talking to yourself.  Imagine for one moment how differently you would feel if you said or read the words, “I really love sharing my art with people” with a tone of belief, confidence or sarcasm.  Which do you think would have a greater impact on your subconscious mind?
  4. Be patient with yourself. Remember that it will take time to change those negative messages in your mind to something more positive.  If you don’t feel an immediate difference you might get tempted to quit. It takes 21 days to form a habit so at least give affirmations a 21-day trial. The changes that you see will be more gradual than an instant flash but you will see results if you don’t quit.

Are you willing to try affirmations? If you would like a head start I update these affirmations monthly so feel free to visit often and change affirmations as your situation changes. What other things have you tried to improve your self esteem and attitude? Let me know in the comment box below. And if this was useful to you, please share it with your friends using the Pinteret, Twitter, or other share buttons.

Allegra Sinclair is a professional coach and confidence expert. She hates to see women living small and loves to help them change how they show up in the world.

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