A lack of boundaries is killing you. There are some people who are more susceptible to this lack of personal boundaries condition than others, but personal barriers are important for a number of reasons. They serve as barriers to protect your self esteem. They are also tools for establishing limits with others and communicating that there are certain things that you won’t tolerate. There are certain behaviors, certain interactions, certain people that you are unwilling to accept in your environment.
People without personal boundaries routinely, end up in negative situations and relationships. Without limits, you’re a victim to the whims of those around you. So if you don’t set any rules, that means that you are going to be ruled by those around you. Personal boundaries are about respecting yourself and demanding respect from others. If you don’t respect yourself and hold other people accountable for treating you respectfully, that kills you. Maybe it doesn’t kill you physically but it kills you emotionally, it kills you psychologically. It kills you in all the ways that women need to guard our hearts. It kills that warm, sweet, gooey center that is who you are. That special magic that you uniquely bring to the world is killed when you don’t protect yourself with personal boundaries.
Listen in to find out what Captain Jean-Luc Picard from Star Trek the Next Generation has to do with setting personal boundaries. You can establish healthy personal boundaries with these tips:
- Communicate openly about what your boundaries are
- Value yourself
- Define yourself
- Place a higher priority on yourself
- Identify where you need to tweak your boundaries
- Make your boundaries firm, reasonable and clear.
- Be flexible.
- Learn to love saying no
Having boundaries is an exercise in caring for and respecting yourself. You have the right to expect a certain level of respect and consideration from others.
If your lack of personal boundaries is creating challenges for you, now is the time to start taking better care of yourself. Adequate boundaries are not only good for your self-esteem and confidence, they are also great for your mental health and other aspects of your life. You also put yourself in a better position to care for your friends and family.