Fear. Throat. Punch. A couple weeks ago I introduced my ‘Punch Fear in the Throat’ concept. Have you recovered yet? Good, because I want to poke that bear some more this week.

First, let me make it clear that I AM encouraging world-wide punching of FEAR in the throat. We will talk about removing toxic people (haters) from your life on another day but right now I am totally focused on silencing fear. So nobody can say that I was advocating violence in case there is a rush of women punching each other in the throat. I did not say that. Are we clear on that? Good.

Silencing your inner critic will allow awesome to happen

Now, I promised you that by silencing your inner critic or that drive-by confidence assassin, that awesome would happen. And it will! I defend the use of the image of punching something in the throat because it does a great job of creating a sense of urgency and we need that. Often we don’t act until there is an urgent need to do so. We are especially comfortable procrastinating if we aren’t sure what the results of our action will be. But I want you to be nervous. I want to know, how long are you going to wait to let us see how fabulous you are? How much more time are you willing to give to the confidence assassin? I hope the answer is none.

If you are not doing something that you really want to do and fear is holding you back–what is that you are afraid of? You don’t have to tell me, but spend a little time thinking about that because you can kill any ghost by bringing it into the light. If fear is a barrier to becoming more powerful, we have to know what we are afraid of in order to overcome it.

We are all afraid of something

We are all afraid of something, probably lots of things. But some of them are not serving us any longer and in order to become more, we have to focus elsewhere.  You may never be completely without fear. Is that ok? I believe so. I put my cape down some time ago and I have no intention of picking it back up. But I will also suggest this… I believe Wonder Woman had fears. So did Batgirl and the Bionic Woman. But they silenced fear and showed up anyway.

How did they do that and more importantly, how can you?

Here are 3 suggestions for fighting fear:

  1. Use positive self-talk throughout the day.
  2. Write yourself a love letter.
  3. Show up.

Listening to fears will damage your self esteem. Sometimes we can walk away from the fears, but when they are in our own heads, we have to confront them, even punch them in the throat, to get them under control.

Are you picking up what I’m laying down? Let me know in the comment box below. And tell your friends to subscribe to the Your Confident Self Podcast on Apple Podcasts.

About Allegra Sinclair


Allegra Sinclair is a professional coach and confidence expert. She hates to see women living small and loves to help them change how they show up in the world.